Assalamualaikum, friends,..

A close friend of mine told me, sometime last weekend, about my weaknesses, especially when it comes to building a relationship among different genders. She said, I might appeared to be approachable, easy to befriended with, a great listener, and easygoing person, which for most people is a great treat in a potential partner,... But somehow, I might be too liberal in thinking and too demanding in a relationship, which might very much drive the potential soulmate of mine, further away from me. Hmm, Too Liberal in Thinking and Too Demanding in Relationship... that was something i never expect to found out about myself. Am I all that???

It's being days that I been keep on thinking about her assessment on me. A deep conversation with inner Me even took place every night before I close my eyes and sleep... To be honest, I am still a little blurry in digesting her comment,.. What exactly my acts that qualify as being too liberal, and how did I turn out to be a too demanding individual? Is treating a girl that U feel deeply in love with, with respect and attention and care, while ignoring the facts that she might ended-up be "my-love-which-never-be-mine" qualifies as too liberal in thinking??? Is being close to her, being a tad too protective of her when we are in public places qualifies as being too demanding??? I simply does not know the answer for sure... All I know is that, I am just being me. I respect woman, I honour woman, and I enjoyed the company of woman, simply because I loved to understand the behaviors and the differences of an opposite gender.

There's a Chinese proverb: "Understand yourself, and understands your opposite, so that you will always be victorious/successful". To be a better man, as we all requires to be in search for The Almighty's REDHA, we need to improve ourselves on everyday basis, and for me, this includes the understanding of the very differences in between human sexes. Not just the physical aspect of it, but as important, the thinking, mentality and the emotion aspects of the different gender we called Female. One thing for sure, there is no common denominator in between Man and Woman, the only thing that is common for them is the fact that they are human, Homosapien. Man and Woman thinks differently, acts differently, analyze differently, in fact they even utilizes different part of their brain to do the same activities. I think I understood all that, might not be a total 100% comprehensively of it but should be not far from that,... and my actions towards this particular group of human we categorize as Woman is perfectly driven by my understanding. Maybe because of this, I being defined as Too Liberal in Thinking. Maybe...

As for being Too Demanding in a Relationship... Am I? I am not the kind of guy who insist on holding hands when we go out together, definitely not the kind of guy who expect a goodbye kisses everytime I send a girl home... So I am definitely not a physically demanding guy. Maybe the most demanding I had been in my relationship with a girl, is when I refuses to give up on her and move on with my life, because I knew for the facts that I still had my chances with her. She admitted it herself, she likes me, but she just couldn't overlook some of my weaknesses when she tries to evaluate me. Well, a long note for that girl: " I am willing to change, if the changes U requires would only makes me a better person than I currently am. I have no problem of making changes, physically or emotionally, if it will only upgrades me to be a better man. Yes, I change because of U telling me to, but U are merely the trigger for the changes, not the reason why I even make the changes. I know I need to change, to improve, to be better, but I need a motivation for doing so. What motivation would be better than U?"

People, I am still having this thought about these issues playing continuously in my mind... I am just glad it does not interfere with my work too much. Let me be.

Have a wonderful days everyone.